To be (angry) or not to be (angry)
I wrote this originally on 30 December 2012, as a part of my It’s Okay to be Angry blog about violation. I’ve re-posted it on Reibus. Please read...it probably relates to you, too. Anger can be a debilitating emotion. It can also be a very motivating and inspiring emotion. The challenge is to know whether your anger is de structive or con structive. Most anger management instruction I have read tells me to "forgive". Well I can't forgive the action that made me angry. It was a violation of the very essence of my identity. I've had to live with it my entire adult life. Why shouldn't I be angry? Why should I forgive? I read that "repressed memory" was a load of crap, but I know different - I suppressed memories of what happened to me for 19 years before they flooded back to haunt me. Now I can't get rid of them, no matter how I try. I often wondered why there were so many books and articles written by women who had been violated in
